Feigning confidence. Supposedly a lot of people do it, and do it so well others never know that inside they are the most insecure people ever. To me, it would be akin to trying to fake being a size 2. Someone is going to look at me and figure it out.
Being a writer is even harder than faking. All of the guide books state 'Have a thick skin. You're going to need it.' Okay, but aren't most creative people also very sensitive? How in the world do I get thick skin when people keep peeling my skin right off with harsh comments, criticism and the ultimate dart: No comments at all? Immediately my mind starts up: You stink as a writer. These people are laughing at you. Your family just tells you that you are a good writer to pacify you. You need to just stick to reading... It goes on.
Much like singing. Once, I got up to sing in church. I was so scared that my throat shut down. It was like trying to sing through a straw. When I finished, I sat down. After church I received several comments. "You sounded like a Quaker (hahaha)." "The microphone was shaking so badly that all we could hear was the quivering." The most hurtful of all? "God made some to sing and some to sit and listen to the singing." That one cut to the quick.
Did I stop singing? Yes. Did I stop writing? No. For me, singing is optional, but writing...writing is necessary. It is my only way of unplugging the cork and letting the inside flow out. I don't speak well. I am actually terrified of public speaking. But put me at the keyboard and I will get up on my soapbox and let 'er fly, telling everyone exactly what I think. Same person. Different outlets.
How do you express yourself? Do you sing? Write? Are you a thinker? A conniving plotter? Are you a brilliant public speaker who thrives in the crowded spotlight?
Whatever you are and however you express it, don't quit. Don't let the naysayers stop you. Soar in silence, or write loudly. Sing to the masses or in the shower. And most of all, look at the lack of comments as a blessing. At least they aren't negative comments, right?